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Assumptions

10/26/2017

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Have you ever heard the line "assuming makes an ass out of u and me"? And to think, we all make hundreds of assumptions every day. I'm not implying we are all assholes because more often than not we make them subconsciously, the only time it makes us the asshole is when we knowingly do it. When there are gaps in the information collected, we fill in those blanks to reconcile what we are experiencing with what we think is going on. We don’t even realize we do this. When we expect certain things or hope not to have them, guess what my friend, unspoken expectations or lack thereof can be a form of assuming. 

Most of us didn't get here with OnStar; we had help crafting the perfect storm with the help of our insecurities or all those participation trophies we received as children. Or any number of other factors, bad relationships, or a variety of different ingredients that went into the blender to form the bittersweet concoction that I know I have had to taste from time to time.

The danger is, that what our senses are telling us, and what we think is happening, may not be the reality (see my post on Miscommunication) . So how do we permanently remove that address from the GPS and choose not to drink the Kool-Aid? (I've never much liked Kool-Aid anyway, if you know me then you know I prefer Powerade)! 

Being aware is insightful, but solving for it seems to be little more difficult. So far, these are a few of the strategies I've found some success with:
    - Be curious, ask questions, gain clear information before making decisions
    - Freely give trust, change your default first to assume the best
    - If you didn't see it or hear it yourself, don't write your script for a scene you experience.
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So how do you deal with assumptions? I would love to hear your thoughts so leave a comment below!
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