Due to recent events I've spent a lot of time thinking about friendships and relationships. I like to think that my moral compass points the right direction most of the time so I put together a list of, I'll call it "Best Practices" and here they are:
- If you keep saying the same thing over and over, you are trying to convince yourself not whoever you're telling.
- If you immediately feel the need to defend yourself or tell your side of a story then you're probably the guilty party.
- If you have to hide it, lock your phone, delete it - either you A) shouldn't be doing it or B) You should make whatever decisions necessary so that you can do it without hiding it.
- If you Change someones name in your phone so that you can text/call them without drawing suspicion, you definitely shouldn't be doing it (refer to my last point for other options).
- If you do something to hurt another person but can only manage to give a public, social media apology then you probably don't mean it and they are definitely not going to see it as sincere but rather as attention seeking.
- And last, sometimes silence speaks volumes but eventually you do have to assess and take action to either get closure or resolution.
OFF MY SOAPBOX!