Well, I'm feeling good about being back at this blog writing stuff. I haven't posted in over a year and hadn't planned to change that until I got a little push from an unlikely place. I was playing pool league at Magoo's, and a friend, we'll call her Susie, was nice enough to take the time to tell me that she enjoyed my blog and reading what I wrote. Honestly, this shocked me a bit because I didn't think anyone read this thing other than me! It was a pleasant surprise and motivated me to write this post so thank you, Susie!
I think the best place to start is with some insight into what made me stop in the first place. One of the last things I wrote was just after a fight I had with my brother, and he passed away shortly after. Anyone who knows me knows that my family has suffered more than one tragic loss in the last couple of years, and this last one just set me back quite a bit. Losing my sister and my mom was extremely difficult, but at least I was in a good place with both of them, and I wasn't harboring any regret. I was not so lucky with my brother, and it took me a while to come to terms with that. I had to find a way to remind myself that our relationship wasn't just that one disagreement but years and years of other experiences, most of which were positive.
Grief is a funny thing, and it hits everyone differently. Within six years, I lost three members of my immediate family. It changed me. It changed the dynamics of what family I have left and my role within the family. It changed my priorities and the way I set them. It changed my outlook on life and my approach to new things. I'm still the same person at my core, but I think I look a little different these days on the inside.
Over the last year, I have started to take stock of my life, and in doing so, I realized that I have room for improvement as a human, as a mom, as a wife, daughter, friend, employee, teammate. I am bold and outspoken. I wear my heart on my sleeve along with my opinions, even if you don't want them in the first place. I am learning, though, that if I'm going to be that intense outwardly, I must also be willing to take a hard look in the mirror and do some significant self-reflecting. I've always attempted to be as self-aware as one can, but that isn't enough. I need to go the extra step and ask for feedback, be brave enough to have tough conversations, listen to comprehend, not respond. Admit when I'm wrong and sincerely apologize when necessary. The older I get, the more I realize I don't know. I still have a lot to learn. I'm a work in progress, and that has to count for something! At least it counts in my book.
Until next time.
This TED Talk has to be one of my all-time favorites. The title is "A Republican mayor's plan to replace partisanship with policy." I am a massive fan of mayor Bynum and his methodology. I applaud the way he ran his campaign for mayor and how he uses raw data to determine what to accomplish and give the citizens a means to measure his success. With that, here is the video. I can't wait to hear what you think after watching it, leave me a comment!
My precious son might give me an ulcer! Teenagers are tough man, and he knows me so well and knows how far to push and what he can get away with, and then when he is in trouble, how to appeal to my softer side.
Chandler almost failed last semester and not because he isn't smart or because he didn't learn the material. No, he almost failed for not turning in his homework, or not doing it in the first place. The struggle is real; getting him motivated is like looking for a unicorn. I hope we make it through eighth grade!
This is a custom shirt I made for a friend. She gave me a picture of what she wanted and I did my best to recreate it. I'm still new at this designing in Adobe Illustrator but I think I'm starting to get the hang of it!
I'm working on a new schedule for blogging because there are so many different topics that I want to write about and since this is my blog I can do what I want! Ha! I think I'm going to break it down into themed days of the week, for now that seems like the easiest plan. This is what I'm thinking:
Maker Monday: DIY projects & crafts with my vinyl cutting machine.
Tuesday Tell-all: Life, family, grief/loss, mom stuff, etc.
Watch-it Wednesday: TED Talk inspiration - videos from my favorites playlist
Thursday How-to: All sorts of different tips and tricks that I use personally & for work
Friday Five: Five of my favorite things
Series Saturday: Deep dive into a tool or utility, program or process
Sunday Funday: Anything goes
After spending twelve years at Harvard University, Shawn Achor has become one of the world’s leading experts on the connection between happiness and success. His TED Talk is based on the fact that we believe that we should work to be happy, but could that be backward? In this fast-moving and entertaining talk from TEDxBloomington, psychologist Shawn Achor argues that actually, happiness inspires productivity. The TED talk has been viewed over 13 million times so maybe he is on to something! Check it out, leave a comment and let me know what you think!
Kyle MacDonald gave this TED talk in 2015, and it amazes me every time I watch it. I can think of a lot of things better than a paperclip to start trading, what about you? What do you think of this? Could it be replicated?
Dustin James is clever and funny and knows how to tell a story. This story is a reminder that we have to make time to sharpen the axe if we are going to be productive cutting down the trees. The video is less than 8 minutes long and you won't regret watching it. Let me know what you think!
I want to get this new year off to a great start and what better way than with a little inspiration.
I am so excited to share some of my favorite TED Talks with you this week. I think you're going to love them! No one needs to know, though, if you decide you don't love them, feel free to keep that to yourself.
For today, I am sharing my new bio for this blog. Let me know what you think in the comments below!
Any girl can be a princess. She just needs to find a country to lead. I am a lazy overachiever and a procrastinating perfectionist. My favorite word in the English language is facetious because it is the only one that has all five vowels in the right order. I don’t like unnecessary icons on my desktop. Adulting sucks sometimes, and nothing prepares you for how hard it is to be a parent. No one tells you that the moment your baby arrives, so does the worry and that you will never stop worrying about him. I like being the boss of myself and others too. I spent a short time ranked 44th on the WPBA (Women's Professional Billiard Association), so I guess that means I am a pool shark, or does that make me a momma shark? Do-do-do-do-do. I don't like long walks on the beach or anywhere for that matter. I am a go big or go home kind of girl, and 99% of the time, I am going home. But on the off chance I decide to go big, it will be with fierce passion. I have an equal number of opinions as I do ideas, and my will is strong. My do-it-yourself game is on point. I make things, like crafts. Random shuffle is a setting in my brain, not a line-dance. It provides the soundtrack to my life. Thank goodness my chair spins. Otherwise, I would be so bored, and you would too, seeing as you wouldn't have this blog to read. These are the types of things you can expect to get from me because filters are overrated, and I think I am funny.
Blog Challenge "100 posts in 100 days" Post #100
It's finally here! I made it! Hooray! I can't believe I actually completed this challenge. I feel a great sense of accomplishment and pride! I really can keep a New Year's Resolution!! Now I'm taking a much needed BREAK!! Thanks for reading, I won't hold it against you for not commenting! hahaha
Blog Challenge "100 posts in 100 days" Post #99
I try my best to choose to have good days and even when that becomes difficult I can usually still find the silver lining. Today was not one of those days. Today I failed, I was failed, and I'm feeling the effects of failure really bad.
I woke up late and ended up taking my first meeting from home, I didn't have time to get to the office before it started so I had to wait for a break in my schedule before I could drive into the office. The meeting stalled on agenda item #1 and we never got through the things that really needed attention but since we ran out of time it would have to wait until next time.
I chair our local market engagement team and we have a cookout planned for tomorrow, I borrowed my dads truck to pick up our Sam's Club order but when I got there the order wasn't ready so I had to take meeting #2 for the day from the parking lot.
I got a call from my brother just before they finished loading everything into the truck telling me to come pick him up, he had just gotten out of the hospital. At this point, you can probably piece together that my day was really going off the rails fast. I was stressed, anxious, frustrated and the rest of my family is all out of town.
With the truck full of hamburger meet, hotdogs, and all of the other items needed for a cookout, I arrive to pick my brother up. After calling him a handful of times and driving around looking for him I pull over and wait for him to call me back. I get him picked up and that's when shit hit the fan.
I could defend myself with all the ways in which my brother has let me down, left me stranded, guilt tripped me, and found any possible reason to blame me for outcomes to situations I have no connection to. All of those are true and I'm sure that they fueled the fire within me but today, I was wrong. I am ashamed of myself and the way that I acted and how I treated the only sibling I have left. I let anger and resentment, hurt and misunderstanding dictate my words and actions and I have been beating myself ever since and for good reason. I said some really awful things that I can't take back and for that I am truly sorry.
I have to figure out how to better navigate the choppy waters of a disconnected family. Since my sister and my mom passed, life has just gotten hard. I can't keep all the plates in the air anymore and the emotional toll it is taking shows, especially on days like today. I can't be everything to everyone nor do I want to, but I don't know how to change it so that things don't automatically default to me. I should have already addressed the things that have been simmering inside of me for so long now but I didn't. I was scared to confront my brother, I was afraid I would make things worse when really all I wanted was for it to be like it used to be but that's just it, things aren't like they used to be.
I'm working on making my peace with this really bad day that I let take over my mind and body and do my very best to not let it happen again but I'm only human, there are no guarantees.
Blog Challenge "100 posts in 100 days" Post #98
I can't take credit for any of these, but today I thought I would share some of my favorite and valuable pieces of advice!
- If this is the worst thing you'll ever have to go through then you've already made it through the hardest part, everything is going to be ok.
- Don't say things to or about yourself that you would not allow someone else to say to you.
- You have to live your life according to you, at the end of the day if you can look yourself in the mirror and honestly say you gave it your best, that's all you can do.
- What feels like the end of the world today probably won't even make the top ten list 5 years from now.
- Keep it simple stupid
- Learn to treat others the way they want to be treated, not the way you want to be treated.
- Be polite
- Form your own opinions, do the research on your own, don't rely on someone else's interpretation when it comes to politics.
- Don't say yes to something if you aren't prepared to do it with joy in your heart.
- Marry someone who will dance with you in the living room.
- Remember how adults made you feel when you were a kid and try to do better by your own kids.
- There are usually always more than one way to get things done.
- Keep a list of things that make you feel good in your wallet for a rainy day.
- Energy follows attention.
Blog Challenge "100 posts in 100 days" Post #97
We had a great time in Houston, got a chance to dress up!
Blog Challenge "100 posts in 100 days" Post #96
Ever wondered why others perceive you differently than you intended? Here are a few reasons!
- They automatically look for the negative
- They won't consider the context
- They will take meaning from one gesture
- They won't know your baseline
- They evaluate you through their biases
So how do we get our body language to match our words?
- Speak & gesture at the same time
- Use confident gestures (palm down)
- Sit tall
- Claim your space
Blog Challenge "100 posts in 100 days" Post #95
We would all love to think we have control over our lives but we can't possibly have absolute control over anything. What we do have though, is our influence. Just by being ourselves, saying what we say, doing what we do, we are influencing those personally and physically close to us. The choice we have is whether we choose to use our influence in a positive way or in a negative way.
You never know who's watching, or who's listening to us, our influence can spread like wildfire. Nothing can encourage us like someone else's good example. Want to create value in your life and for others? Become a good influence.
The more good influences we surround ourselves with, the happier we will be.
For more check out this article, The Power of Influence by Alex Lickerman M.D.
Blog Challenge "100 posts in 100 days" Post #94
Couldn't we all use a little work on making better first impressions? Here are 6 things to keep in mind:
1. Adjust your attitude (a pep talk might be called for)
2. Check your posture (sit up straight)
3. Smile (sincerely)
4. Make eye contact (connection is a deal maker or deal breaker)
5. Raise eyebrows (show interest)
6. Lean In (but not uncomfortably close)
Blog Challenge "100 posts in 100 days" Post #93
Again with my development plan because when I'm in a slump there's nothing better than focusing on what I can and should plan on accomplishing in the future to get me back in the swing of things! LOL
So I was taking a course online and came across some really great points and thought I would share so here it goes.
Self promotion is not about "bragging" it's about "briefing." Ask yourself what difference do you want to make in the world? Who do you want to help? How do you want to help them through your work?
Self promotion is about helping senior leaders or your managers know what you can do or how you can help them so they can help you achieve your purpose and mission.
Shift from putting the attention on "you" to bringing attention to the contribution you can make to others.